The Holy Trinity of Sucking Dick: Open Your Throat, Embrace the Gag, & Control Your Vomit

My friend bought me this book for my birthday and I thought it was hilarious.


I wish I could write a book about sucking dick, because it is one of my favorite things to do, but I’m no expert, so this blog post will suffice. I don’t have all the answers for how to give a mind blowing blow-job, I don’t even have all the answers for how to give a mediocre blow-job, but I know what I like and what works for me. I haven’t had any complaints and honestly, I wouldn’t care if I did. LMAO!

If you follow me on social media (you should by the way) then you already know that back in November I vowed to start a campaign for women to embrace the gag. Watch the video below 🙂

TO ME that is a huge part of sucking dick. So, consider this my way of spearheading my campaign for a beautiful and enjoyable throat fucking session. I have compiled what I consider to be the most important part of sucking dick into three main parts: opening your throat, embracing the gag, and controlling your vomit. I call them the “Holy Trinity of Sucking Dick” because if you have one you have them all, they are intertwined. Let’s get into the foundation of sucking THE DICK!


Open your throat

When I say open your throat I mean be open to the fact that you can fit more in your throat than you think, and then actually open your throat and test it out. I’m not saying go full steam and shove an 8-inch dick in your throat just for the hell of it, like everything else on your body, your throat must be trained. I always tell my friends to practice with food, because who doesn’t love food? AM I RIGHT?! Popsicles, bananas, cucumbers, anything to that affect, until you find your throat’s comfort spot. After a couple of times using food to gauge the depth of your throat I suggest moving on to a dildo.

Don’t rush it, if you’re not used to having something shoved down your throat and you are aware that you have a gag reflex this whole thing can be overwhelming. Be patient with yourself, oral sex should not be a chore, it should be fun and exciting. That’s why I recommend starting with food lol. Once you have successfully gauged the depth of your throat that you are comfortable with I would advise testing it out with a dildo next since the girth is similar to that of your partner’s dick. Practicing on a dildo is also a great way to practice your breathing, while simultaneously helping you get used to your mouth & throat being filled. You will be able to push yourself more and figure out what throat fucking technique works best for you. Once you’ve found your throat’s comfort spot you can move on to a man who is patient, understanding, and eager to test your throat out too!

I’m not a hands person when I’m sucking dick, I mean every now and then if I need to catch my breath or give my throat/jaws a break, but usually my hands are elsewhere and I’m mouth and throat only. So…this is kind of a big deal to me. Unfortunately I don’t have any tips for what to do with your hands other than play with his balls or play with yourself, that’s about all I got. Sorry 😦

It kind of makes me sad to think that there are people who don’t engage in throat fucking sessions, it is very therapeutic and it’s a fucking turn on. I haven’t met a man who has turned it down. It will also make your partner nut quicker, unless you can wrap ya lips around the dick and within 45 seconds he’s done. (I’m here for it, but I ain’t got it like that lol) However, I do know the depth of my throat, and I actually enjoy a nice rough throat fucking session every now and then. (it’s not always about him) A little throat fucking won’t hurt you.


Embrace the gag

I have a gag reflex, I wish I didn’t, but I do, it is what it is, and I can’t do anything about it. So I embrace it. There’s nothing more annoying to me than to hear people talk about how much they hate or are afraid of gagging when they’re sucking dick. Which is why I made the above IG and Snapchat video, because if you shove something down your throat and you have a gag reflex…you’re going to gag or throw up…maybe both. I don’t understand the aversion that people have against gagging, personally I love it, it’s a challenge and a turn on all at the same time.

I know that I can’t completely deep throat an 8-10 inch dick, but that doesn’t mean I won’t try. Ya dig?


One thing I’ve found helpful in overcoming my disdain towards gagging is focusing on my breathing and not my instinctive reflex to throw up. In other words, mind over matter. I just don’t think about it. I focus on my breathing. I think about where my hands are, or I look at him and revel in the fact that I literally have a whole damn penis in my mouth, before I know it, the gag has passed. Also, since I don’t fear gagging I don’t generally think about it anyway so when it happens it passes pretty quickly, this of course came after a lot of practice, but it is possible.

I have learned that the best way to overcome this is to focus on my breathing and lean into the gag. I had to see how far I could get the dick down my throat, while still breathing, and see when I would feel anything come up. Even though I know what my throat comfort level is, I still push myself because no two dicks are the same. Size definitely matters! Depending on the width of the dick, I could deep throat it without breaking a sweat, whereas others pose a challenge, personally I prefer the latter. If he can’t make me gag or choke I get no pleasure out of him fucking my throat. So it will probably only happen once.

But mainly I focus on breathing, inhale through my nose, exhale on the dick, and I ALWAYS keep my eyes open. Closing my eyes while sucking dick is like trying to lay down while I’m pissy ass drunk…I will lose my bearings and throw up. I don’t really care about throwing up, but I don’t like when I have to stop getting throat fucked either, so I’d rather not. Lol!

Mind over matter, lean into the gag, breathe, eyes open. It works for me.

I always make sure I’m taking my time, I don’t let men shove their dick in my mouth, (at least not initially anyway) because they don’t know my throat like I do. If you are sucking dick, you have to maintain some control honey you can’t just let him hammer your throat before you’re ready, because he will, and you will probably throw up. Grab him by the balls and take control, it may be his dick, but it’s your throat!


Control your vomit

Ok, I don’t know about y’all but I’ve thrown up on the dick, several times actually. Luckily for me I don’t have sex with immature men so they were very understanding. That’s why I advocate for throat training, on both a full and empty stomach. Liquid vomit and food vomit are completely different, and you need to be ready juuuust in case. If throwing up is the goal (which can be lit too) then feel free to ignore this entire part. But I have found that with sufficient throat training you can actually keep from throwing up or at the very least, suppress it, again it is mind over matter.

Sometimes you’ll pull up on ya man and he’s looking like a straight up snack but you just ate a snack (Chick-fil-A) in the car on your way over there. Now you’re about to get throat fucked and you gotta worry about throwing up chicken nuggets all on his dick. I’ve been there boo, it’s ok!


That’s why practice is important, take it from someone who threw up a half lemonade half fruit punch on the dick, your throat can be trained and your vomit can be controlled. I realized that if you ease the dick up just a few centimeters out of your throat, the vomit will dissipate, give yourself a few seconds, focus on your breathing, and then ease it back down. Go slow though! If you start to feel the vomit coming up your throat just get the dick out your mouth and swallow it, (or throw it up, it’s up to you) catch your breath, and give your throat and stomach a chance to recover. Pay attention to your body, unless the goal is to throw up, you shouldn’t get to that point in the first place. Stay present and be aware of how far the dick is down your throat, if you have to use your hand as a guide, then do that, but don’t ignore your gag reflex, it’s there for a reason. You should always be aware of your throat’s comfort level.

Also, make noise on the dick, I suggest humming but if you gotta gargle, moan, whatever you gotta do, that will also keep you from gagging and throwing up too. Some men are like me and they have a thing for the sound of gagging and choking so they are willing to go there with me, given the fact that they have a dick that is capable of making me gag & choke in the first place. So every now and then I have those moments when I’m right on the edge of throwing up, so I’ll hum because it will limit my gagging and keep me from completely throwing up but still give the affect of choking on the dick. I’ve also gotten used to swallowing my vomit with a dick in my mouth, so… by all means take what I say with a grain of salt. However, I promise once you do this a few times, much like gagging, it will get easier and you will lose your inherent hate towards it, unless you’re hell bent on hating it, but that of course is on you.

Keep in mind, this is my foundation for sucking dick. It may not be mind-blowing might be less than mediocre, I don’t know and I don’t care. I enjoy it and so do my sexual partner(s) so it’s only right that I share. Now I could go into a bunch of other shit that I do, like sucking and licking balls, finger in his ass, the different kind of positions, etc., but that’s not what this is about. This is like fundamental dick sucking / throat fucking and what I think is the best way to enjoy it. If you have any tips, suggestions, or funny stories, comment, or send me a message and I’ll share it anonymously.

What’s your holy trinity for sucking dick?!