It Takes a Team to Cream: The Gangbang Experience

Last week on Snapchat & Instagram I said I would engage in a gang bang with T’Challa, Killmonger, Mbaku, and Wasabi. If you don’t know what movie they’re from, please remove yourself from my life.

WAKANDA FO-EVAH! 

 

 

 

 

ANYWAY!!!

Obviously, I wasn’t serious, T’Challa is the only man I’d have sex with out of the cast but the responses that I got from this reminded me how taboo it is for women to enjoy sex. I wrote it like that for a reason. Gang bangs, threesomes, group sex, etc. is only acceptable when organized by men. If we enjoy it, we are vilified beyond belief. I was tagged in more church videos and sent more bible verses the 24 hours after I posted the above video than all of my years on social media.

My initial reaction was: Fuck y’all! But I sat with those feelings for a while and remembered why I began blogging about sex in the first place, because women have the right to explore sex in all aspects, not just the acceptable shit. So I decided to give my tips for a successful gang bang!

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Do Ya Research 

As usual, I always advocate for people to do their own research when exploring anything sexual. Don’t take my word for it, or anybody else’s, do your own research to figure out what you wanna do. When it comes to gang bangs I always tell people to watch porn first lol this may sound weird, but it really does help. Gang bangs are usually 3 or more bangers with one center. I’ve always been the center and I always will be, the whole point of a gang bang is to have all the attention on me but it can be overwhelming. Porn will help you get a better understanding of how many men you think you can handle at once. Which is also why I advise starting with a threesome first, you shouldn’t jump into a gang bang, ease into it.

I had my first threesome at 19, the men were patient and kind so it was a beautiful liberating experience, but I wasn’t prepared for it. Don’t do what I did. After that, all I watched was gang bang porn, I looked up tips, and read about women who had great and horrific gang bangs so by the time I had my second threesome, I was ready.

It was better than anything I could have ever imagined. There are a lot of moving pieces to threesomes and gang bangs, so it’s important that you take the time to educate yourself FIRST.

Find The Bangers

I know women who have had spontaneous gang bangs, and I’m here for it but it’s not my thing, and I would never suggest that to anybody, but I also won’t discourage you if that’s what you wanna do. Different strokes for different folks, it’s not my place to judge. The only thing I will say is: BE CAREFUL!

Since the age of 19 i have engaged in both threesomes and gang bangs. The last 3 gang bangs I’ve had have been with the same men so it’s been a long time since I had to find new men, so please excuse me if this list is not complete. But for the most part these are at the top of my list.

  • All men must be willing to get tested with me (no exceptions)
  • Strong communication skills
  • Single
  • Big dick. (no shrimp dick ass men allowed)
  • Must be into anal. (MANDATORY)
  • Comfortable with his body
  • No homophobic / Transphobic men
  • No beginners (if you haven’t engaged in a gang bang you won’t be gang banging me)

Now of course this is not my complete list but it’s been over 2 years since I had to look for multiple sex partners. Next to research, searching for partners is the most important part of the gang bang. You have to be careful but you also have to be honest. There’s no room for desperation or crippling horniness when you’re searching for gang bang partners, because you will end up choosing men that may not have your best interest at heart. The whole point of a gang bang is to enjoy it, you don’t want to put yourself in any compromising situations.

I have heard of women who use websites and actual gang bang coordinators to find men, I can’t speak to that experience because I’ve never used those methods, again, this is where your research comes into play.

Getcha Mind Right

The mental preparation of a gang bang is a must! I implore you to prepare yourself mentally through research, watching porn, and sorting through partners. It is a daunting task because as women, we have to be careful how we engage with men, and during a gang bang there will be multiple men. Don’t let this discourage you, if you prepare mentally, and take the necessary precautions, you will enjoy yourself.

If you plan on engaging in a gang bang, with 3 or more partners, you should at least engage in a threesome first. It is not as easy as you may think to be actively engaged with more than one partner. You need to ease yourself into the big leagues because even if you engage in anal and vaginal sex on a regular basis that means nothing when you have 2 men inside you, 1 in your mouth, and another in your hands…at the same time. It is a different sensation and a different experience. You will need to have your wits about you.

Getcha Body Right

Stretch! Stretch! S T R E T C H! I cannot stress this enough! Now I don’t know about most people but after my first threesome everything was sore, my back, thighs, neck, jaws, everything. If you start with a threesome first (which is what I recommend) and you are not into anal, you will most likely be working your mouth and vagina to the max (depending on how long your partners last). The soreness will eventually go away, but you don’t wanna pull a muscle (like I did) so stretch before and after.

Cleanse Ya Bowels. You may not be into anal sex, but when you have 4 or more men fucking you one after another or simultaneously, you will be pushing, and there is a possibility that something may slide out. Do yourself a favor and handle that before you lay it low and spread it wide. I recommend an enema about 2-3 hours before your gang bang begins, especially if it’s your first time.

Your throat deserves attention. I wrote a whole blog about the beauty of sucking dick, those rules still apply in a gang bang, however, you have to keep in mind that it is a big difference between being throat fucked by your partner and being throat fucked by 4 different men with 4 different sized dicks. If you’re a pro, ignore this, if you’re a novice pay attention.

***You do not want to allow men to throat fuck you if you’ve never been throat fucked before, a gang bang is not the place to try new shit like that for the first time. I’m not saying don’t engage in oral sex, I’m saying control it. Don’t let them fuck your throat, you’re the center, you’re in control, they either listen to you or get the hell out. If you have never had sex with them before, don’t let them ram their dick down your throat.

Communicate

The best part about orchestrating a gang bang is talking about it with the participants. I have always been the center in all of the gang bangs I have engaged in. So I set the rules and the men either abide or get the hell on, I don’t negotiate with them AT ALL. I would never advise any woman or center to negotiate with the bangers, F U C K   T H E M. It is not about them, it is about you! Now, this is not to say that you ignore their boundaries, if they don’t want you touching their anus, or sucking their nipples, or anything like that then you need to respect that. What I’m saying is, when it comes to what you are willing to engage in they should not be voicing their opinions. If you are not into anal and a banger suggests it anyway, be confident, clear, and direct about your aversion and inform him and the other bangers that under no circumstances will anal sex happen during the gang bang. Anybody that doesn’t like it can get the hell on.

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Safe words. I enjoy rough and degrading sex so I use safe words anyway, but they’re especially important during gang bangs. You need to be able to communicate to the bangers that you have reached your limit, or you need to give your anus, vagina, mouth, or hands a break. As I said, you’re in control, and you will be in positions where you may have to give non-verbal cues, everyone involved needs to be aware of non-verbal cues and safe words, so this should be discussed before the gang bang begins.

Boundaries. Like I said, rough and degrading sex is my thing, (read about it here) but when you’re fucking 3-5 men at a time, you don’t want all of them slapping you and choking you, TEW MURCH! So I have different boundaries for gang bangs.

  • Everybody involved must be sober! (MANDATORY)
  • Only the penetrators can slap/choke me
  • No ass to vaginal sex
  • No spitting
  • Hair pulling only by penetrators
  • No cum shots (My skin is too sensitive bih)
  • No cameras / phones until after gang bang is over
  • Face/throat fucking is a must (I’m not a novice)

Just like my list for finding partners, this list is not complete, gang bangs are unique, just consider this a guideline.

Quick Tips

Double Penetration – The best part about threesomes / gang bangs is being filled and centered. If you’ve already had anal sex, then this should be a breeze. Remember that being stuffed is different from being fucked, and these are 2 people, not toys. Consider being stuffed first, and get fucked later. Take it slow.

Gang bang & blow bang – I like to say that gang bangs start as blow bangs. You have to get started somehow, and 9 times out of 10, that begins with oral sex. Don’t wear your throat out though, control the oral sex they can fuck your throat once the gang bang starts. If you only want to engage in a blow bang, let it be known from the beginning.

Lube – Whether the sex is raw or you use condoms, you will need lube regardless. This is not your average fuck session so you’re going to want to protect your vagina and anus from being fucked raw. Depending on how long the gang bang is, you will eventually need it, so keep the lube close by.

***Remember that using the wrong lube can cause the condom to break. If you’re using latex condoms, use water or silicone based lube, not oil based. For more info on what lube to use, checkout this Buzzfeed article.

Semen – Let’s not pretend that men don’t ejaculate. When you have just one man, it’ s no big deal, but when you have 5, shit can get messy. I’m not a fan of semen, so I don’t want that shit anywhere on me, they can put it in a bag and carry it home if that’s what they wanna do, I really don’t care as long as it’s not on me. But don’t be shy about it, tell all the bangers where they can or can’t bust. I do. Don’t ignore it, because it is an integral part of the gang bang, and usually signals the end of the session. Be prepared.

You’re not a bad person – Listen, if you don’t take anything else away from this post, take this: if you enjoy gang bangs, threesomes, group sex, it is ok. Your sexual interests are Y O U R S. You are not less of a woman because you want 3 men inside of you at once. You can be a feminist, enjoy degrading rough sex, and enjoy fucking multiple men at once, it is up to you. Remember that sex happens with us not to us, you have the right to enjoy whatever kind of sex you want. Your feminist principles should not suppress your sexual interests, you have autonomy and agency as a person to enjoy sex safely and free of judgement.

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There are certain sexual acts that I am not into, but I would never discourage anyone from experimenting. The only thing I will harp on is safety. I personally enjoy gang bangs, I’ve had 6 since I was 19, and will probably have more as I get older. It took me a long time to stop linking sex to shame, which is why I write about it the way I do. If I wanna have degrading, rough sex with 5 men, I will. I have that right.

And so do you. 

 

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