I lead with feminism and blackness, so that there is no confusion about my political and social stance. If you’re going to dislike me, then I’m going to make sure we get that shit out of the way up front.
I am not the black feminist you want to follow if you want a comfortable space to discuss sexism, feminism, or patriarchy. I resent the apologetic tone of my fellow black feminists, who are constantly explaining that their pursuance of liberation is not anti-men.
I don’t see why I have to choose one over the other when the foundation of both feminism and womanism was laid by African women, and given the fact that my black ass is of African descent, I feel that I can identify however I please.
Black people, we have to admit that sexism exists. I do not know of any group of people that willfully ignore oppressive systems that affect their pursuance of liberation like black people ignore sexism. By ignoring sexism we ignore the plight of the black woman and therefore perpetuate the oppressive state black women have been subjected to for centuries.
As a black woman I have noticed that the arbitrary rules of being a queen in the black community is based on the idea of serving black men, and displaying strength in the face of adversity without so much as breaking a sweat. It’s all just so fucking ugly. Keep your qualifiers.
My perspective, although rooted in my race, is also defined by my gender. I am a black woman, and I will not choose one liberation over the other. I will have both or I will die trying. I don’t have the ability to choose race over gender or gender over race.
If your empowerment or motivation for women ignores patriarchy, sexism, or misogyny your intent is dishonest and you should shut up. It doesn’t cost shit to be honest. If your empowerment ends as soon as you stop talking, you should’ve stayed quiet in the first place. You have to be honest, you have to be introspective, you have to be inclusive, and you have to be genuine.