How do you justify denying us our right to dissent in our formative years and then turn around and shame us for trying to figure it out on our own now that we’re adults? You cannot have it both ways. I cannot consciously allow myself to be docile in the face of my elders in the name of respect. I will never respect anyone that much.
It is not the responsibility of single people to be concerned with your relationship or marriage.
The general definition of gold digger is a woman who uses, dates, or marries men solely for their money. But men with money understand the dynamic because they can afford to understand it. Broke men should not be voicing their opinion on this topic because they are not the targets of the gold diggers that they hate so much. Stay in your financial lane.
Most people, (black and white) don’t even know what racism is or what it means. When whites compare their situational disadvantages to our societal disadvantages they are essentially saying that we should be grateful for what we have. My family has been in these United States longer than the average white. I personally traced my maternal familial line back to the 1500s, so yes, I know for a fact that all whites are racist, and I also know why.
Whenever there is a discussion of social unrest or oppressive systems there should always be a race, gender, and class analysis. The conversation has shifted. The media and social media are now basing the morality of an inherently racist nation on the backs of black people, yet again. It is a racist trope used to reinforce the idea that black people, especially black women, exist solely to be exploited by white people. Reject it.
We base our success and worth on our proximity to whiteness, and that’s why we hate poor black people. Whether you do or don’t value yourself as a black person based on your proximity to whiteness does not mean that other black people don’t, so this conversation is a must either way. We gotta unpack our shit!
Women will victim blame other women just as bad as men. This is a problem that needs to be addressed. We gotta stop this victim blaming bullshit. It’s so harmful on so many levels.