I do what I have to do and whenever I find pockets throughout my day when I can do what I want, I do just that. I live my life how I see fit. I define my own values and prioritize the things that are important to me.
PS. Do not take offense to a single thing that was said. These are just things us women and men talk about that we do not like being asked or told. Everyone fights their own battles but discrediting ours is not the way to go.
Fetishizing is a subtle problem in the dating world. I’m sure interracial dating, or dating a white person, is subjective for everyone. However, after my experience, I wasn’t fond of it. I felt uncomfortable knowing the history of white men abusing black women and turning around trying to love or date a white man.
I decided to create a Black Feminist Hub where black women, feminist or not, can come to share what they know, learn from others, and empower black women. Contributors are extremely important to the success and longevity of the Hub.